FINAL TASK

Discussion Questions

1.       What was it that cause her father to go bowling a second time?

-          For the first time in a long time her dad felt connected with his children. Due to his workaholic behavior he lost the touch of a father and when he realize this it was too late, he didn’t know how to bond with his children.

2.       Do you agree with her that it must have been “frightening” for her father to live with children who had adopted American culture and an American lifestyle? In a sentence or two, explain how he must have felt.

-          He must have felt terrified because for him it’s very hard to adapt to this new ambiance. All his life he have been guided with certain rules and conducts and when he sees all this changes and arrangements he freaks out.  For the kids is more easy to adapt because they don’t have a way of living established.

3.       Why does the author feel “odd” teaching her father to bowl? Have you ever taught a parent or grandparents something new-perhaps how to use a cell phone, send an email, or conduct an internet search? Explain the feelings you experienced as you did this. Were you proud? Excited? Embarrassed?

-          The most recent was last week when I was trying to teach my dad how to send a photo or image via WhatsApp. It was so frustrating, I showed him step by step like 5 times and still I would notice the confusion in his eyes. This experience made me realize that we should be very grateful with our parents they went through this same experience and feeling when we were much younger.

Essay

When I was a little girl I was very close with my dad. I was the perfect example for Daddy’s little girl. He took me everywhere although he didn’t lived with me, if I called him, he immediately come for me no matter what was he doing. My dad would give me anything I wanted but he always taught me how to be humble and appreciate things. We were inseparable. The kind of relationship that you can talk about absolutely anything, do anything and you always have a smile. But throughout time this changed.

I’ll never forget the night my father told me that every child goes his own way and the relationship is never the same. I promise him I would never do that, that nothing was going to change and that I wasn’t like my other 4 siblings. Time pass, I grew up, become a more independent woman and the more time went by the more distant I became with him. The other day I went for a visit and spent long hours talking with him about the university, all the work I have and what I have planned for my future. As I was telling him all this he interrupt me saying “I told you so”, now I’m all confused and I ask him the meaning of what he said. He reminded me about that night, he told me that this was going to happened willy-nilly or not. In that moment I felt terrible like I lied to him. This is why I want to rebuilt our great confidence, I want to honor my promise.

My dad and I used to eat Denny’s every weekend, it was our little ritual. My dad also love sports just like myself. I could invite him for dinner at Denny’s or bring him to one of my volleyball game. This would bring us more close together. I want to spend all the time possible with him because he is in the first stage of Alzheimer and every minute counts. I love my dad with all my heart and I want him to remember me forever as Daddy's little girl.